Now let’s first set things straight here. I am by NO means writing this post in an attempt to say I have nailed being a boss lady and am killin’ it at everything I do. Reality is no one is perfect and we should wake up everyday with an inspiration and aspiration to be better, wiser, stronger… This is more so around the amazing women I’ve been lucky enough to meet on life’s journey and the lessons I’ve learned from them along the way.
Life can be full of ups and downs, and navigating your way through your twenties can provide more challenges then you could have ever imagined (isn’t life supposed to be all sorted out by the time you’re 20?! Definitely not!!) I’m starting to see the older you get, the more challenges that present themselves, but also how things get easier when you start to develop a perspective on who you really are and what really matters in life.
Above all, it’s so important to stay true to yourself and just keep doing what you’re doing. One day at a time, one step at a time. I’m a perfectionist, and at the worst of times I’ve let it cripple me. At the best of times, I’ve let it ruin completely amazing situations where I just couldn’t see past that one tiny little insignificant thing that didn’t go according to plan. I’ve even let it stop me writing blog posts because they weren’t perfectly polished or timed or perfectly articulated. But then I’m missing out on sharing with you guys and hearing all the beautiful things and changes happening with you.
Your twenties are a flourishing time in your life, as I’m experiencing now, full of love and light and change and growth and the happiest of times. What I sometimes face is feeling like I can’t add value to the conversation in different circles of people because of my age. But did you know you can actually be a boss lady in your early/mid twenties? You can actually inspire people much older then you? You can actually influence others to change their behaviours or thoughts for the better? And you can definitely be killin’ it in more ways then one.
So here are 6 tips on how to be a boss lady in your life:
1. Self love is everything.
Be so sure in yourself and who you are, that no one can steer you away from that. The more you move and create change, the more people will push back. Don’t listen to the haters because after all, they’ll just keep hating.
2. Don’t let anyone dictate your worth.
You deserve better. Back to point one. It all starts with an internal, unshakeable kind of confidence. The kind where you can look someone straight in the eye and tell them exactly what you’re thinking because you have every reason to back yourself.
3. Try, fail, then keep trying.
No one ever got it right the first time. And it’s so important to remember that. Because when you fail, or when you’re down, that’s when the haters come out and will try make you feel like you made the wrong move or call. There’s no such thing as failing or a wasted attempt, only another reason to keep moving.
4. Follow through with the “out there” ideas.
People insecurities come out when you suggest something that’s never been done before. It’s scary, it’s unsettling, but it’s also an occasion for positive change. If it’s never been done before, isn’t that every reason to give it a go (and learn at least)?
5. You don’t have to be everything to everyone.
It’s not about ticking everyone’s boxes. Don’t let people guilt trip you, because that’s their insecurities coming out. Check in on yourself and sometimes let yourself be you’re number one priority. Ask yourself – who do I really report to / have to impress? If you’re happy with who you are and how you are going in life, that’s more then enough.
6. Surround yourself with other inspirational women.
“Tell me who you spend your time with, and I’ll tell you who you’ll end up being.” Mentors, friends and your circles of influence are everything. Be careful who you chose to give your time to. Be wise in how you spend your work and free time. Be intentional with who you let shape your character. Iron sharpens iron.
Love A x
Golden Hour Girl 
Good morning, I just bumped into your article and all this I have tried so many times but it always end in disaster in the sense that I see myself placing people before me,I don’t know why but it seems it an habbit that can’t be removed.
Pls I just need a coach to give me a follow up, and I see myself asking for opinions from people in order not wrong them especially my parents and my boyfriend who I try not to offend and it seems anytime I try not to offend them they grow angry,and they never seems to appreciate anything I do to please them I’m so tired of everything,and whenever I do a business it will just collapse like I didn’t put much money in to it,,, I cry at every given opportunity or if I’m deeply hurt,I have tried so many times to stop but I don’t know I can’t just help it. I really need your help pls tell me what to do tnks.
I will be waiting for your response.