6 Tips On How To Be A Boss Lady (and be killin’ it in your twenties)

Now let’s first set things straight here. I am by NO means writing this post in an attempt to say I have nailed being a boss lady and am killin’ it at everything I do. Reality is no one is perfect and we should wake up everyday with an inspiration and aspiration to be better, wiser, stronger… This is more so around the amazing women I’ve been lucky enough to meet on life’s journey and the lessons I’ve learned from them along the way.

Life can be full of ups and downs, and navigating your way through your twenties can provide more challenges then you could have ever imagined (isn’t life supposed to be all sorted out by the time you’re 20?! Definitely not!!) I’m starting to see the older you get, the more challenges that present themselves, but also how things get easier when you start to develop a perspective on who you really are and what really matters in life.

Above all, it’s so important to stay true to yourself and just keep doing what you’re doing. One day at a time, one step at a time. I’m a perfectionist, and at the worst of times I’ve let it cripple me. At the best of times, I’ve let it ruin completely amazing situations where I just couldn’t see past that one tiny little insignificant thing that didn’t go according to plan. I’ve even let it stop me writing blog posts because they weren’t perfectly polished or timed or perfectly articulated. But then I’m missing out on sharing with you guys and hearing all the beautiful things and changes happening with you.

Your twenties are a flourishing time in your life, as I’m experiencing now, full of love and light and change and growth and the happiest of times. What I sometimes face is feeling like I can’t add value to the conversation in different circles of people because of my age. But did you know you can actually be a boss lady in your early/mid twenties? You can actually inspire people much older then you? You can actually influence others to change their behaviours or thoughts for the better? And you can definitely be killin’ it in more ways then one.

So here are 6 tips on how to be a boss lady in your life:

1. Self love is everything.

Be so sure in yourself and who you are, that no one can steer you away from that. The more you move and create change, the more people will push back. Don’t listen to the haters because after all, they’ll just keep hating.

2. Don’t let anyone dictate your worth.

You deserve better. Back to point one. It all starts with an internal, unshakeable kind of confidence. The kind where you can look someone straight in the eye and tell them exactly what you’re thinking because you have every reason to back yourself.

3. Try, fail, then keep trying.

No one ever got it right the first time. And it’s so important to remember that. Because when you fail, or when you’re down, that’s when the haters come out and will try make you feel like you made the wrong move or call. There’s no such thing as failing or a wasted attempt, only another reason to keep moving.

4. Follow through with the “out there” ideas. 

People insecurities come out when you suggest something that’s never been done before. It’s scary, it’s unsettling, but it’s also an occasion for positive change. If it’s never been done before, isn’t that every reason to give it a go (and learn at least)?

5. You don’t have to be everything to everyone.

It’s not about ticking everyone’s boxes. Don’t let people guilt trip you, because that’s their insecurities coming out. Check in on yourself and sometimes let yourself be you’re number one priority. Ask yourself – who do I really report to / have to impress? If you’re happy with who you are and how you are going in life, that’s more then enough.

6. Surround yourself with other inspirational women. 

“Tell me who you spend your time with, and I’ll tell you who you’ll end up being.” Mentors, friends and your circles of influence are everything. Be careful who you chose to give your time to. Be wise in how you spend your work and free time. Be intentional with who you let shape your character. Iron sharpens iron.

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Love A x

Lessons I Learnt In My 20’s (Part 1)

  
Wow how is it already December! I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels like this year has slipped through the gaps of your fingers like sand. Eeeeeek. Nonetheless what a year it has been.

I feel like this year I have learnt a lot about myself and what really matters. And I mean the reeeeeeeal stuff. The stuff that often doesn’t get publicized on social media because perhaps it’s not hashtag worthy or trending? Or maybe because we are too in the moment enjoying ourselves we forget to capture it, and it’s kind of nice to keep some things private. 

Here are five key lessons I have learnt so far from my early twenties: 

1. It’s okay to say no to going out/ being with friends. It’s important to slow down and look after yourself. Understanding the value of exerting your time and energy on other people is priceless. Less is more. 

2. The big guys aren’t always right . I used to think the big people with more experience, status and fame were right and always knew what was best. Not entirely wrong but not entirely true. We are all human and we all make mistakes at the best of times. Speak up even if you’re the young one, or have less cred.

I’m never so sure as I was in my mid-20s. Meryl Streep

3. Happiness is shallow. The idea of being happy is overated. You are never going to be 100% happy all the time. It’s about a deep joy that extends beyond happiness. Because stuff happens and it’s okay to feel all sorts of emotions. Joy is key in these moments. 

4. Be unique not fake. Be weird not popular. The cool kids are overated. Seriously. Taylor Swift said it herself – Ha! Just do you. It’s pretty freaking awesome. 

5. Silence is a wise thing. Sometimes it’s just not worth it. Hold your tongue. Save your breath. Sometimes, most times, people need to make the decision or the mistake for themselves and learn from it. It will have much greater impact then creating a hissy fit about it. 

  

Love A x 

Traveling Abroad At A Young Age

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One of the greatest things I have done in my life to date was packing my bags and leaving for Europe (from Australia) when I was 19. I lived and was based in London for six months while traveling all around Europe (you can read more about it here and here). It was magical and the places I saw have left a mark on my heart. Those trips are the reason I blog, love photography and have a serious case of the travel bug.

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A series of unfortunate events (fortunately)

My June adventure is a week in and what a week it has been. From almost missing buses and flights, to speedy breakfasts to pouring rain to luggage dramas to smashed computer screens to twelve hour journeys to Italy to… You get the jist of it. 
 
But all I can say is everything somehow works out for the better. Like right now I’m standing on the stairs to the port in Riomaggierio: a little village on the north west coast of Italy with the sun shining on my bronzed skin on a pure blue sky. Boats speed across the fresh sea watered horizon and waves gently tumble over the stacked limestone rocks where sunbathers lay begging for the suns attention. 
 
A major lesson I learnt this year throughout all my travels across Europe was the difference between travelling and a holiday. A holiday tends to be one destination and consists of a nice hotel, probably a killer pool and breakfast buffets. But travelling is one destination to the next, a crumpled up wardrobe of mismatched clothes stuffed into a suitcase, terrible hotel choices but incredible memorable adventures to the kinds of places you didn’t even know existed. 
 
Experiencing this month of which we are trying to join travelling with a holiday is turning out to be quite the adventure. Monday in particular. It took us thirteen hours to get from San Sebastián to Cinque Terre (the most incredible place) and consisted of five luggage bags, two flights, a missed bus, one taxi ride, four trains, unhelpful Italians and clouds everywhere to cheer up the mood. And finally once we arrived at our dream destination we couldn’t find our hotel reservation slip let alone recall the hotel name in a town with very very limited wifi. But eventually, the final leg of the mammoth journey, pulling five bags through steep cobble stoned streets led us to our hotel amidst the most northern village of the Cinque Terre region: Monterosso. 
 
But we finally got our holiday when the sun came out the following day and we were able to feast on spaghetti and pizza, walk the coastal trek revealing some beautiful views of the colourful sea side villages and lay on the beach until the sun set over the mountains. Looking back on all the mishaps over the past week I can’t help but laugh. As for the moment I could not be more relaxed or satisfied with this hidden gem which is my home for the next few days. As for the next three weeks, I’m ready to tackle anymore obstacles if it means I get more experiences like this. Unfortunate events fortunately bring better things you couldn’t even imagine! Image